DO YOU OFTEN FEEL that before attempting something new you need to somehow know how to do it? That it’s essential to get it right first time, and that making a mistake just isn’t an option? But how can that be possible, I wonder... How can a person be certain they can do something before they even try?
Having the skills or knowledge to do something well.
Anybody who ever learnt something new did so by following these four steps:
Step – 1
Take a moment to remember when you were a young child...
There was a time before the time you could ride a bike. A time when it didn’t even occur to you that you couldn’t ride one. You were blissfully unaware of the fact and it simply didn’t matter. You were ‘unconsciously incompetent’ as far as bicycles were concerned.
Step – 2
One day you notice your best friend riding a bike, and you think, “Hey, that looks like fun! Wish I could do that.”
Do you remember how you tried in vain to stay balanced on that thing? How very difficult it seemed. You’re now ‘consciously’ aware of just how ‘incompetent’ you are at bike riding.
Step – 3
But you persevere. You stick at it, and a few grazed knees later you find yourself riding (tentatively!) down the street with your friend. You’re now ‘competent’ although still very ‘conscious’ of what you’re doing. It still takes all your concentration to keep it together and avoid ending up in a big wobbly heap on the pavement.
Step – 4
Several months later...
A couple of mates call round. “Come on, let’s ride into town!” You hop on your bike, point it in the right direction, and hey-presto! It just seems to happen all by itself. You’re now oblivious to all that clever balancing and co-ordination that once demanded your full attention. You’re now ‘unconsciously competent’ at riding your bike.
A confident successful person fully understands and accepts that they have to follow these four steps from novice to expert with every new venture they undertake:
So the next step in building that rock solid determination that separates the winners from the quitters, and to encourage sticking with a plan until it succeeds, might be listening to this Develop Perseverance self hypnosis download.
Truly confident people aren’t the ones who know for sure they’ll succeed; they’re the ones who know they can handle failure if it happens. So start giving yourself permission to not get everything right first time, and allow yourself to more comfortably tolerate outcomes that weren’t the ones intended – i.e. failures!
It makes life so much more enjoyable
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Doing the splits naked over
a live lobster!
Feel the Fear
& Do It Anyway
Turn fear and indecision into confidence and action.
An insightful and engaging look at the destructive effects of fear in all aspects of your life, with guidance on how that fear may be overcome.
People often have a desire to change but find themselves held back by fear and self doubt? Unfortunately change often requires facing one’s fears, and that’s when they give up.
Based on the idea that indecisiveness stems from a fear of the unknown, Susan Jeffers advises you to ‘face the fear’ and not be swayed by outside influences. She provides both an understanding of the roots of your fears and actions you can take to better deal with them, be that a fear of public speaking, asserting yourself, making decisions, intimacy, changing jobs, being alone, ending a relationship... and many other common fears.